Does the Kid With the Most Toys Really Win?

After attending several recent birthday parties forimagination by giving toys that do everything for
young children, I was amazed at the amount of toysthem. I think a big mistake people make when buying
one child could receive just for turning another yeartoys for young children, is they get toys that can do
older. It reminded me of a conversation I had ata lot when they could be selecting toys that children
Christmas with an 8 year old little girl. When I askedcan do a lot with.
her what she was wanting for Christmas this year,Not Enough Play
she answered, I don't know, I have everything, justStudies also show that when a child is given a new
surprise me! I was utterly stunned.object they go through two stages, the first is
I never gave it much thought before, but this madeexploration and the second is play. When in the first
me think does a child really need all these toys to bestage of exploration, a child is wondering what does
fulfilled? And can having too many toys be good?this object do? During the second stage of play the
Don't get me wrong I love birthday parties, and Ichild is figuring out what they can do with this? When
believe they should be celebrated no matter whatthey have too many new toys they take a lot more
age a person is.time exploring what the object does and taking very
I began to wonder are there side effects of havinglittle time playing with it.
too many toys besides the obvious one of too muchMakes Bored and Whiny Kids
clutter in the house? I began to look into it and foundWe don't usually think that by having too many toys
that it does have a few side effects. You will findour children would be bored and whiny. Most likely we
that too many toys:think the opposite to be true, that they need more
Shortens Attention Span, Creativity & Imaginationtoys to give them more to do so they won't be
If you watch small children in a room full of toys theybored. However studies have concluded that children
will naturally go from one toy to another exploringbecome easily bored and whiny by having too many
what each toy has to offer. If too many toys aretoys because they become overloaded and over
available to explore it can diminish their enthusiasmstimulated. Some children will throw the toys, and
and decrease the chance that they will actually takesometimes break them on purpose or be aggressive
time to play with any one toy. When this happens itin their use. This goes back to no appreciation or
decreases their creativity, imagination or observationalrespect for the item or who gave it to them. There
skills.is no reason to take care of the toy; as they have
If you notice that your child is bouncing from one toymany more.
to another you may want to limit the number ofNot as resourceful
toys available to play with. That way they can giveA child with too many toys will not learn how to use
their full attention on a few different toys so theytheir imagination or creativity. A special study was
are not being easily distracted.done in which they removed all toys from a group of
Takes Away the Specialnesschildren for three months to observe what would
When a child knows they have a lot more toyshappen. Not surprisingly these children invented
available to play with or that mom and dad will buygames and used their imagination to play. They
them whatever they want, there is no need to taketurned the chairs and tables into forts, houses, and
care of any particular toy. The child's expectationsinvented their own games. They were resourceful to
have become greater than their appreciation.use what they had to have a great time. This study
As a kid did you ever wish for or wanted a toy thatshows a child does not have to be resourceful when
you knew your parents couldn't afford, or maybethey have an abundance of toys.
you had to save up your own money to get?Too Much Landfill
Remember how excited and proud you were whenLast but not least, think about the amount of toys
you finally got what you wanted. It might not havethat just one child has and multiply that by millions of
even been a big item, but you took care of it. Someother children who have just as many, and ask
of you may have even kept a few special childhoodyourself, where are all those toys going to wind up?
toys to this day. How many special toys will yourYou got it, in the landfills of our nation. If you are
child keep?concerned about our environment you will want to
Overwhelms and Over Stimulates a Childteach your children by example, and limiting plastic
A US government-funded study regarding the effecttoys is a great way to teach them.
of children with too many toys said children can getI have heard it said that children who can use their
overwhelmed and over-stimulated and then theyimagination and creativity in play tend to be more
cannot concentrate on one thing long enough to learnemotionally secure. We as moms do the best we can
from it. Also too many toys means they are notand we want our children to be emotionally secure.
using their imagination when they play. What thisAlthough it is sometimes hard to say no to a new
says to me is by having too many toys we aretoy it may be one of the best things we do for our
limiting their ability to learn to concentrate or to finishkids.
what they started. And we are limiting their