Don't Grow Up Too Fast

Is your child growing up too fast? As a parent weoverprotected. Monitoring playtime with other children
want them to stay young and innocent. Somewherewill give you a better sense of how your child is
along the line our kids become exposed to outsiderelating to the other children. If your child is a
influences and they mature faster then both you andfollower, you need to remember this as they grow
your child are ready. How do we control theolder and start behaving like the other people whom
environment to benefit our child's growth andthey are playing with. Don't be afraid to hurt your
maturity? We must first review our outsidefriend's feelings and not make play dates with their
exposures to our child.child. Your child's emotional well being is more
Media exposes our children to many things they areimportant.
not ready to hear or see. You may not think yourMany times older children will make fun of younger
child is paying attention while you are watching achildren for playing with certain toys or having
prime time sitcom that is inappropriate for children. Assecurity blankets. Depending on the age of your child,
I have mentioned in my other articles, young childrenthese toys and security blankets may be age
see and hear more then adults can possibly imagine.appropriate. Giving up these things because of peer
Most shows are not appropriate for young children topressure is not healthy. For example, if your child
see or hear. The language and situations are toosleeps with a security blanket at night and another
mature for their minds. If it is not possible for you tochild mocks your child for this behavior, your child
watch these shows without your children around,may give up their blanket when they are not
you can record them to watch while they are in bed.emotionally ready to give it up. This could cause
While you are on the phone or in a personalinsecurities and other emotional attachments. Allowing
conversations make sure your conversations area child to give up his/her favorite blanket or stuff
appropriate for them to hear. I quickly learned whenanimal on their own time will help them be more
my daughter was young, my conversations weresecure individuals.
being monitored and repeated, usually at the mostYou don't want to coddle or baby your child so that
inappropriate time. There is nothing more humiliatinghe/she does not mature at a natural rate. It's
then having your personal conversations repeatedimportant for them to feel confident, secure and
from a 5 year old.loved. Building an environment that allows them to
Probably most importantly is whom your child isdefine themselves without outside influences will help
playing with. If your child is playing with older children,this process. While exposing your child to age
he/she will want to imitate the older child. Beingappropriate toys, media and friends you are
cautious of your child's friends is not being toodeveloping a secure environment.