Fear of Having a Baby

 tired.
Fear of having a baby is called Tokophobia, and oneSo how do we overcome this?- by profound
in six women suffer from it. relaxation. It sounds too easy to be true doesn't it,
Sufferers of Tokophobia are split into two groups,but it is really very simple.
and quite often starts with feelings of anxiety andWhen the labouring mother is in a comfortable state
terror due to early and ongoing programmingof relaxation (not in hypnosis) the two sets of
concerning horrors of labour, negative anticipationmuscles work in harmony as they were meant to,
created through media drama, stories of earlier births,and birthing occurs smoothly and easily in a normal
films showing labour to be comic or very dangerous,birth. 
or having had a bad experience the first time round,The mother is taught that birth is natural and healthy,
the more you think about it the worse the feeling ofit is not a medical event, its about mothers and
terror becomes. If you can learn to let go of thefathers and babies, and respect for their rights and
fear, use breathing and relaxation techniques, thewishes to bring their babies into the world in a gentle
uterus can do its work easily and comfortably, as it isand calm way. 
meant to do, in a normal birth.It's as much as philosophy as it is a technique. It is a
When the mother approaches labour with unresolvedrewarding, relaxing, stress-free method of birthing
fear and dread, her body is already on the defensive,that is based on the belief that when a mother is
and the stressor hormone, catecholamine is triggered.properly prepared for birthing physically, mentally and
Her body then goes into the fight or freezespiritually, she can experience the joy of birthing her
response, the uterus tenses and everything slowsbaby in an easier, more comfortable, and often even
down.pain free, manner. It returns to women the art of
We use the uterus to birth, it's a muscle workingbirthing in a way that allows her to summon her
hard, that's what its there for. The muscle needsnatural birthing instincts. Its based on the belief that
oxygen and blood supply to work smoothly. Whensevere discomfort does not need to be a natural
we become frightened, blood is directed away fromaccompaniment of labour.
the uterus, to the parts of the body involved inIf the mother has a very bad phobia about fear of
defence. This causes the arteries going to the uterusfalling pregnant, she will probably need to address the
to tense, restricting the flow of blood and oxygen,problem before taking the HypnoBirthing programme,
which are vital to the functioning of the uterus. Whenor any Childbirth course, if she seeks the help of a
the muscles in the uterus work against each other itgood hypnotherapist who is also interested in
causes considerable pain for the labouring mother,HypnoBirthing or Natural birthing. She should
and her anxiety becomes worse. the uterus becomesovercome the fear of having a baby. It is very
tired, maybe we shake, and tense, and babies getgentle and relaxing.