Helping Your Toddler Socialize

Socialization is an important part of childhoodthey can realize that it's not the end of the world to
development that should not be ignored.  Someshare.  They may not understand your explanations
toddlers socialize more easily than others and manybecause they are so overwhelmed at first.
need help and direction from adults to truly get the However, with a little practice (and a lot of patience
concept.  Socialization starts with the parents early inon your part) they will see with their own eyes that
life and can actually be a lifelong process of trial andsharing is not the same as giving away.
error learning.Around age two, when they start to get past the
Start by talking to your baby.  Respond to theiranxiety of sharing, children will normally start to
babbles, laughs, wants and needs.  Thisbecome interested in other children.  Encourage this
reinforcement and interaction will help your baby toas much as possible.  Make sure that you call other
see that involving someone else in their day is achildren their "friends" and talk about how fun it is to
normal part of life.  This is the basis for learning howplay with other kids.  It may be a good idea to have
to interact with other people.your child make friends on neutral ground, like at a
As your baby gets into the second year of life, hepark, where sharing is not an issue.  You can tackle
may see everything as his own.  The "mine" stagesharing on a separate occasion.
can be very frustrating and even cause parents toWhen your child has some regular friends, invite them
avoid social interaction with other children.  However,over to play with your child's toys.  Carefully arrange
this is an important stage in development that shouldthe room so that it contains toys that are easily
be taken advantage of.shared.  Many preschool toys are good for this
Being protective of toys may make your child throwpurpose.  Blocks, a train table, an activity table,
some real tantrums.  They are feeling intensecrafts, and other toys that have multiple items are
emotions that they have never felt before.good for getting started.  Once your child learns that
 Remember that it is good if your child makes it toit is fun to let other children play with their toys, you
this stage.  Now the goal is to coach and help yourcan move on to taking turns and other more
child learn how to cope with these emotions so thatadvanced social skills.