Peer Relationships and Getting Good Grades

Our relationships play a large part in shaping who wesooner or later pressure you with their negative
are. Among our most powerful influences is our peerhabits.
group. Our peer group is the people we associateCombat negative pressures by learning to say no. If
with who are similar in age, background, social statussomeone is trying to get you to do things that make
and interests. These people influence our beliefs andyou uncomfortable or will work against your goals,
behavior.just tell them that you would rather not. Make no
Teenagers make decisions about who they callapologies or excuses. Just say no.
friends by who they identify with or want to identifyStudies show that kids who get good grades are
with. Even though some teens prefer to go it alone,involved in sports or other activities, such as music
the desire for a teenager to fit in and to be part ofand other arts, tend to avoid peer groups that are
a group is almost overwhelming.into negative and destructive behaviors. Peer
You are about to make some serious changes in thepressure is the number one reason teens get into
way you do things. You want your grades to changedrinking, drugs, smoking, and criminal behaviors.
so you are going to have to do things a lotNot all peer pressure is negative. Members of positive
differently. Where does your current group of friendspeer groups set plenty of good examples for each
fit into your new lifestyle? Do they want to see youother. Having peers who are committed to doing well
be successful? Are they supportive of the fact thatin school or to doing their best in a sport can
you are not going to do some of the things youinfluence you to be more goal-oriented, too. Being
used to do because you have to devote more timearound positive, goal-oriented people can help you
to your studies? Look at the people you spend thedevelop positive habits. They also can be a source of
most time with. Do they encourage you to do yourencouragement.
best? Are they working hard to do well in school? IfWork to develop positive relationships and avoid
not then you may consider some new friends ornegative peer pressure.
spend less time with them. Negative people will