| I can tell you that it is really common for marriages | | | | whatever you have left to put into a rainy day |
| to end up in a divorce proceeding because of the | | | | savings account. |
| stress build up that leads to a point of no return. Not | | | | And I don't have to tell you about letting your credit |
| only a good marriage takes hard work, our modern | | | | card spending spiral out of control. Easy credit makes |
| world is simply overwhelming for many couples that it | | | | money easy to spend. But at some point, you will |
| seems life is uncontrollable. | | | | have to pay the piper. Along with high interest rates. |
| So all the stress in marriage leads to tremendous | | | | And some of you are already at this point. Well, it is |
| outbursts and anger. And this keeps up until the | | | | time to use some discipline and stop adding to your |
| couple can no longer live with each other. So they file | | | | credit card account and start paying it down, little by |
| for a divorce to seek relief from the stress. | | | | little. |
| I also can tell you that many times, it is far worst, | | | | And imagine your relief when you finally pay it all off. |
| financially and emotionally to get a divorce. All the | | | | And this is only due to your spending discipline. |
| statistics I read proves me out. You actually get | | | | How about how to raise the children? Many couples |
| poorer. A year or two later, you actually wished that | | | | have arguements how to do discipline the children |
| you didn't get divorced in the first place. | | | | when they have done something wrong. Or how to |
| But yes, at this moment in time, divorce seems like | | | | raise the children in this world. And the reason for |
| the best solution to the building up of stress | | | | most of this they each came into a marriage with 2 |
| between the two of you. My suggestion is to | | | | different family values. |
| explore the alternatives before going down that path. | | | | So these differences can cause clashes that results in |
| In short, the key to keeping a marriage going out of | | | | strong arguments. So instead of waiting for the |
| control is to learn how to cope with the stresses | | | | disagreement to happen, why don't you "talk" with |
| that life throws at us each day. And learn how to | | | | your partner and come up with a compromise to mix |
| alleviate those stresses so that we can keep our | | | | the two family values together and making it work |
| sanity and enjoy life the way it is supposed to be. | | | | for the family unity? |
| So let me make a short list of the most common | | | | In short, what may have worked for mom and dad |
| stressors in a marriage and how you can handle | | | | may not work for you. My grandfather grew up in |
| them: | | | | the great depression, and I remember stories about |
| Are you worried about Finances? Then you are not | | | | when he was a kid, he was perfectly happy with a |
| alone. This is one of the MOST common reasons that | | | | pair of clothespins for toys. That can't happen today, |
| many marriage end up in a divorce. Especially in this | | | | because there are so many educational toys for kids. |
| current economic climate of job losses and credit | | | | So learn how to compromise and work together as a |
| crunches! That's for sure! | | | | team to raise your children the best way you can. |
| So if you are constantly worrying about how to pay | | | | Are you keeping all your emotions and feelings inside? |
| your bills every single moment of your day. Know | | | | This isn't healthy. So if you are feeling upset or don't |
| this, it is normal to be worried about something that | | | | feel that you can get your feelings out in the open, |
| you are unsure about. But don't let this worrying ruin | | | | you need to talk about that. Let your partner know |
| your marriage. | | | | about your fears and hopes. Don't bottle everything |
| Now if you think about this for a minute, can you | | | | up and when you can't do it any longer, they bubble |
| find some ways that you can live within your means? | | | | up to the surface and explode. |
| You may have to let that new car go for instance. | | | | Communication is key. |
| Or a new flat screen TV. So what? Isn't the | | | | So there you are, some of the most common |
| knowledge that you are making positive efforts to | | | | stresses that can destroy or ruin a great marriage. |
| rein in your spending worth the piece of mind? So | | | | Don't be afraid to seek out professional help from a |
| write up a monthly budget and STICK WITH IT. It | | | | marriage counselor. That is why they are there. To |
| requires discipline but according to the book "The | | | | help you both sort out your differences and give you |
| Millionaire Next Door," the authors concluded that | | | | the tools to handle stress in marriage. And know this, |
| most of the first generation millionaires adopted | | | | the better equipped you are to handle the stresses, |
| frugal habits. | | | | the stronger your marriage will become. |
| So make sure your bills get paid each month and use | | | | |